Transforming Conflict Team Charge
Goals of Conflict Transformation Engagement
- To help us understand how our own minds and bodies respond to conflict—and learn new ways of responding.
- To develop skills for responding to conflict in relationships in a healthy and productive manner.
- To understand the cycles of conflict and systems in congregational life.
- To develop Congregational practices in which conflict can be treated as an opportunity for growth rather than a crisis of division.
— taken from Conflict Transformation by Terasa Cooley
Message from the Board of Trustees
|How might we view conflict not as a problem to be managed or resolved but as an opportunity to strengthen our common life?
|Is it possible to engage conflict creatively? Why is it important now to transform conflict in the life of our congregation, our society and ourselves?
|Provide opportunities for small group listening and dialogue sessions about our understanding and perspective of conflict. Provide a summary of these sessions to the congregation earlier in your process to spur commitment.
|How might we think about any imbedded systemic issues that cause conflict at UU Westport?
|Congregations can develop ingrained habits that inhibit healthy relationships between members and between members and ministers.
|After discussion and research, a short report initially published via link in Soundings discussing cycles of conflict and systems at UU Westport.
|How might we think about engaging the congregation?
|After completing these first two focus areas, how can we get people to process and learn?
|After each report is shared, gather the congregation and ask them how these reports “land” with them: do they see the congregation this way, how do they feel about it.
|How might we think about congregational and personal habits that could potentially transform conflict?
|To develop practices in which conflict can be treated as an opportunity for growth– thereby strengthening our imagination and creativity and reducing our anxiety.
|Development of mini workshops in coordination with Chaplains, Committee on Ministry, Board, and others that discuss recommendations, guidelines, etc. to develop a culture of listening, learning and risk taking.
|How might we think about consultants to help us with conflict transformation?
|Possible resources are UUA’s Hope for Us, the Lombard Peace Center, and/or perhaps others
|Return a recommendation on how to use or not use consultants in this process.
|How might we think about the Covenant of Right Relations and its current efficacy for us?
|Are we treating each other as if we are saying to one another: you are not alone, you are enough, you are loved?
|Return a recommendation concerning the Covenant.
|How might we think about generational, cultural, wealth, gender, sexual orientation, or ethnic aspects in our conflicts?
|Deeply held value systems can exist between various groups. How might that impact potential conflicts?
|Embed and acknowledge any perspectives and recommendations in the mini-workshops, reports, or recommendations.